Entrepreneurs, like predators, must often act quickly on commercial opportunities or miss a vital chance at success, whether it’s putting food on the table, achieving a business goal or taking that next step. Yet when they do bring home the kill, sometimes guilt lingers long after the deal is cut. Morals and ethics create quandaries that keep many people up at night and inconsolable during the day. Negative stress affects the mind and body, decreasing productivity, edge, and well-being.
How can you as an entrepreneur or business person get your head back in the game? How can you be guilt-free while exploiting the right set of circumstances in order to survive or thrive?
First, here’s what you need to know.
Take a moment to explore the anatomy of guilt. Guilt arises from a remembered perception that you have caused more negatives than positives, pain than pleasure, and loss than gain to yourself or others. But lopsided perception is a lie. Here’s why.
From physics to metaphysics (i.e., our perception and emotions), we live in a world of duality, and the universe gives us pairs:
You can’t have a positive without a negative or a negative without a positive. Whether you are cognizant of it or not, there is perfect balance at all times. So it’s impossible to do more harm than good or more good than harm. The pain is proportionate to the gain.
The fact is, because of the way that your body and mind your hardware and software is wired you only see one side of reality: the positive or negative, good or bad, happy or sad. You’re not designed to spontaneously recognize symmetry, balance, and order. You have lopsided perception by default.
In this sense, we ALL lie because we’re advocates of the sides representing illusion.
In this sense, we’re ALL ignorant because we ignore the other side. But the Truth is never in the parts.
The Truth is in the whole.
Next, here’s what you can do.
Guilt can occupy an enormous amount of space and time in your mind. To free memory RAM on your hard disk and reclaim control, follow these four simple steps:
Focusing on what happened, exactly as it happened:
1. List 12 gains/benefits that you obtained.
2. List 12 losses/drawbacks that you obtained, e.g., what price did you pay? What did it cost you? What did you sacrifice?
Now, shifting focus:
3. List 12 gains/benefits any other party obtained.
4. List 12 losses/drawbacks any other party obtained, e.g., what pain did they experience? What did it cost them?
Balancing lopsided perception dissolves guilt, enabling you to get your head back in the game, and to let go of whatever is weighing you down, keeping you up, or threatening your peace of mind. By the time all is said and done, you will discover that the chase provides great benefits and equal drawbacks to both yourself and others.
Balanced perception is the key to staying in the game and even staying ahead of the game. Understanding this truth will set you free.