I spent a good deal of time facilitating one participant at The Breakthrough Experience, on behalf of the Demartini Institute and Dr. John Demartini. Contrary to specious first impressions, Dora’s mother tongue was Albanian (not Italian) and unlike the remainder of the group she was a blue-collar worker. She never hesitated to stand before an audience of 70 to ask what she needed to know that weekend. By the end of the program, enthusiastic with her results, she even asked for my business card.

Three months later, I received a phone call and instantly recognized Dora’s voice. She inquired how she could work me. After explaining my results-based performance approach and a variety of options, she booked her first appointment, paid cash in full, and commenced her 90-day transformation journey.

What left me at a loss for words was that a woman that worked as a housekeeper could perceive the value of my programs, which incidentally are not cheap, and find them underpriced despite her limited buying power. “I thought it would cost more,” she said eagerly.

Regardless of social class, when the perceived void or need is big enough money is never the problem and always found. For Dora, it meant saving every cent of her wages for a full seven months. Since she was living in a foreign country, married, and mother of two to support, it’s more likely that she had saved money for years.

If money doesn’t matter then, what does?

Self worth. Are you worth the investment? Only you can decide.
Dora was. Thanks to her investment, today she is a professional aesthetician and masseuse. By the way, she’s looking for a housekeeper.

The Secret of Solid Silent Strength

I worked with an interior designer in the luxury goods industry who felt that she regularly compromised more than she should, personally and professionally. Latterly an empty nester, in the final third of her life, she wanted to focus attention on self-growth.

We uncovered her four Structural Pillars or the big rocks that constitute the cornerstones of the Self’s being; these core values or valued states are non-negotiable for the Self to enjoy integrity.

Almost overnight, she sensed a solid silent strength start to spread from the inside out. She reported turning down two prestigious clients, which in the past had consistently challenged her cornerstones. Automatically, she had learned to say no.

Moreover, after twenty-five years, her spouse was suddenly and rapidly making up for lost time by doing his best to communicate which gave her marriage hope since knowing what was important to her enabled her to feel comfortable about leaving, if she couldn’t get her needs met.

She never mentioned our work to her spouse nor did she flex muscle or raise her voice to be heard. Nonetheless, clients, friends, and family detected the invisible change and her profound visible quiet inner strength.

Define your four core non-negotiable values to uncover your silent solid strength. It’s the bedrock of your leadership.


If you could ask a question about what’s holding you back from catapulting your life forward, what would it be? To ask yours, click on the link below.

Q. I like your holistic approach toward the individual, work, and life. Nearing forty, I’m facing a personal challenge: I can’t make up my mind if I’m made for long-term commitments. When I’m alone I long to be in a relationship when I am in one I resent not being single. How can I maintain a degree of independence or freedom in a relationship so I feel that I can still be me while sharing my life with someone else?

A. Most people buy into the notion that a relationship is like two circles that join together to become one. This isn’t romantic. It’s inane and dangerously misleading because it implies that one of the two individuals is annihilated. When this betides in relationships, the Self flees in an act of self-preservation.

Consider this model instead: The circle accurately represents the pre-requisite that an individual be whole and completepriorto entering a relationship. Thus, if you have a personal issue or two decide how you will resolve these independently of someone’s presence in your life.

View your relationship as two separate circles that meet, come together, and join. The area that overlaps in the center is the relationship.Sharewhat you have in common. The remainder of the inner circles respectively represents your past, memories, hobbies, interests, dreams, values, passion, purpose, etc. These are an integral part of who you are?that you and your partner must honor individually and reciprocally in order for the Self to have integrity.

In relationships, you share what you have go — not what you haven’t got together. Be true to yourself. Once you’ve donned your own oxygen mask, honor and support your partner to live according to his/her values. Supporting each other in this way creates a positive upward spiral as your relationship evolves. This will foster your growth as individuals and a couple for a lifetime commitment.

Send me your questions. Although I can’t promise to reply to each one individually, you may see yours featured here in an upcoming issue!



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